Autism, ADHD, and C-Trauma in Relationships Blog
Conquering Deadly Insecurity in Neurodiverse Relationships
Imagine being in a relationship with a neurodivergent individual where you don’t have to second-guess yourself—where communication feels honest, not hard, and where you both feel emotionally safe, even when things get messy. That kind of security is possible. In fact,...
Neurodiverse Love Therapy & Love Counseling for Couples
Neurodiverse Love Looks Different Here—And That’s a Beautiful Thing Neurodiverse Love therapy and love counseling offer something rare and vital for neurodiverse couples—a safe, affirming space where your love doesn’t have to fit the neurotypical mold. If you or your...
The Trauma Tree: Understanding and Healing from the Roots
What Is the Trauma Tree? When it comes to trauma, we often focus on the symptoms that shout the loudest—anxiety, depression, relationship struggles, chronic fatigue. But what if we zoomed out and saw trauma as more than just what’s visible above ground, providing hope...
The Trauma Recovery Scale: A Path to Healing and Growth
Healing from traumatic events isn’t a straight line—it’s a winding, deeply personal journey. For many, finding a way to track that journey can bring clarity, relief, and hope. The Trauma Recovery Scale (TRS), created by Judith Herman, is one such compass. It’s not...
Sensory Processing Disorder: Key Symptoms and Solutions
Imagine a world where the slightest touch, taste, sound, or even a change in light triggers a whirlwind of overwhelming sensations. For individuals living with Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD), this is their reality—a constant struggle to process and respond to...
Understanding the Feelings Wheel: A Guide to Naming Emotions
The Feelings Wheel, originally developed by therapist Gloria Willcox in 1982, isn’t just a visual tool—it’s a gentle invitation to explore the inner landscape of your emotional world. For many, especially neurodivergent individuals, emotions can feel like a foreign...
Neurodiverse Love Languages: The Ultimate Guide
Imagine a world where everyone communicates love in the same way—it would be pretty monotonous, wouldn't it? Thankfully, our world is diverse, including how we express and receive love. This blog post will decode unique neurodiverse love languages and explain how...
Autism and Emotions: What Those Emotions Really Look Like
When we think of emotion, most of us picture smiles, tears, or an angry outburst—visible cues that fit neatly into neurotypical expectations. But for autistic children, emotions often live beneath the surface, deep and powerful, yet rarely expressed in ways the world...
I Was Just Diagnosed with Female Autism, Now What?
Female Autism often goes undiagnosed or is misdiagnosed because it presents differently in female adults than it does in males. Most autism research has historically focused on males, leading to a lack of understanding of how autism manifests in females. Traditional...
How ADHD Sabotages Relationships and How to Fix It
So many of my therapy and coaching couples exclaim that "ADHD Sabotages Relationships." Honestly, it doesn't have to. Navigating a relationship where one partner has Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can be both challenging and rewarding. The symptoms...
Conquering ADHD Overwhelm: Effective Strategies for Everyday
If you live with ADHD, you already know it can feel like you’re constantly one step behind, juggling too many tabs in your mind, and teetering on the edge of burnout. It’s more than being distracted or forgetful; many with ADHD can experience feeling overwhelmed by...
How to Effectively Communicate with Autistic Adults: 7 Tips
Communicating with autistic people, including those with autism spectrum disorders, can seem complicated, but it doesn't have to be. This article explores practical strategies for communicating with autistic people and adults to improve interactions. You'll understand...
A Guide: Neurotypical vs Neurodivergent Communication
Communication is the heartbeat of every relationship, this is especially true in neurotypical vs neurodivergent communication. It’s how we ask for what we need, express who we are, and try—often imperfectly—to understand each other. And yet, for many neurodivergent...
How ADHD Can Impact a Marriage: Love & Attention for Couples in Love
Navigating a marriage impacted by ADHD requires patience, understanding, and effective strategies. ADHD can bring unique challenges to a relationship, but with the right approach, couples can overcome them together. This blog post dives into how ADHD can affect...
What It Feels Like to Have AuADHD: Living at the Intersection
Do you have AuADHD? You’re not alone if you’ve always felt a little “off script”—like the world was moving at a rhythm that didn’t match yours, making it challenging to lead an everyday life. For many adults, the journey toward understanding themselves begins with...
Masking in Women with ADHD: Embracing Self-Acceptance
Do you think you understand ADHD masking in women? What if there's another layer to it? Could it be that the act of ADHD masking—hiding one's true self to fit in—is both a protective shield and a heavy burden? Masking in women with ADHD is a common but often...
Tips to Revive Your AuADHD Sexless Marriage Tonight!
Yes, AuADHD Sexless marriages happen. They happen more often than you think, especially in relationships where one or both partners have combined Autism and ADHD (AuADHD). It’s not a failure. It’s not hopeless. But it is more common in neurodivergent relationships—and...
Unveiling the Impact of Emotional Masking on Mental Health
Have you ever felt the pressure to hide your emotions in fear of judgment or rejection? This phenomenon, known as emotional masking, can take a toll on mental health and relationships. In this blog post, we will explore the concept of emotional masking, its impact on...
How to Heal Your Trauma: Tips and Techniques for Lasting Recovery
Healing from trauma is challenging, yet with proper tools and support, recovery is achievable. In this blog post, let’s embark on this transformative path toward resilience and emotional well-being as we explore how to heal your trauma. Key Takeaways Understanding...
Mastering Healthy Boundaries in Relationships: A Guide
Do you ever feel overwhelmed, drained, or disrespected in your relationships? Healthy boundaries, including boundary setting, are the foundation of balanced, fulfilling connections. They allow us to protect our well-being, nurture respectful relationships, and...
Unlocking Alexithymia: A Silence of Emotional Expression
Imagine the world of emotions as a vibrant, colorful landscape, where each hue represents a different feeling. Now, picture a person navigating this landscape, unable to discern the colors and struggling to communicate their inner experiences at a speed that feels...
How To Be An Adult In Relationships: A Guide to Love
David Richo's How to Be an Adult in Relationships is a masterful book that emphasizes mutual respect, mature communication, and fostering growth. This book is the foundation for all my work with couples, and this post introduces key points from the book. Key Takeaways...
Unlocking the Power of the Highly Sensitive Person Inside You
You might be a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) if you often feel deeply affected by others' emotions or find yourself easily overwhelmed by loud noises and bright lights. This unique trait, found in around 20% to 30% of the global population, can be both a gift and a...
Autism Interoception: The Elusive Undercurrent of Health
Have you ever paid attention to the rhythm of your heartbeat when you’re nervous or noticed how your stomach churns when you’re anxious? Often overlooked internal sensations form the basis of interoception – an essential yet often overlooked aspect of our mental and...
Navigating Overwhelming Feelings: Tips for Finding Balance
Do you sometimes feel like you're drowning in an ocean of too many responsibilities,, emotions, and stress? You’re not alone. Overwhelming feelings can affect anyone, and learning to manage them is crucial for maintaining mental well-being. In this blog post, we’ll...
Effective Strategies to Reduce Anxiety in Autistic Adults
Reducing anxiety in autistic adults can be a challenge, but there are effective strategies that can make a difference. In this article, you’ll learn how to reduce anxiety in autistic adults using practical, evidence-based techniques. From understanding anxiety’s root...
Unlocking Love: The Power of Autism Couples Therapy
Imagine a relationship where your unique ways of thinking and feeling are fully embraced, celebrated, and supported. A neurodiverse relationship, where one or both partners are on the autism spectrum, presents unique challenges and opportunities for growth. That’s the...
Autism Marriage Problems: Communication, Care, and Growth
Got Autism Marriage Problems? Every marriage has its challenges, but when one or both partners are neurodivergent, the relationship can carry a different kind of complexity. Not harder. Just different. And sometimes, that difference gets pathologized, misunderstood,...
The 8 F’s of Trauma Response: How to Better Understand Your Body
Trauma survivors often have to cope with various physical and emotional symptoms. While not everyone responds in the same way, eight common “F” words can help you understand your body's response to a traumatic event. By learning more about these responses to traumatic...
Autism and Emotional Intimacy for Neurodiverse Couples
Embracing the Power of Emotional Intimacy in Autistic Adults Emotional intimacy is the backbone of any thriving relationship, especially for an autistic adult. Yet, it remains an elusive concept for many neurodiverse couples, people with Autism Spectrum Disorder,...
Welcome to the Love on the Autism Spectrum Blog
Real Conversations. Relatable Insights. Relationship Support That Gets It.
Hi, I’m Barbara (Blaze) Lazarony, LMFT, the founder of Love on the Autism Spectrum and the voice behind this blog.
As a neurodivergent therapist, coach, and woman in a neurodiverse partnership for over 40 years, I created Love on the Autism Spectrum to be a resource hub for adults and couples navigating Autism, ADHD, AuDHD, and complex trauma in love, life, and relationships.
This blog is here to offer you support that feels real, not clinical jargon or surface-level tips. Every post is written through the lens of neurodivergent lived experience, emotional clarity, and therapeutic insight.
What You’ll Find Here
On the Love on the Autism Spectrum blog, we cover topics that speak directly to the heart of your experience, including:
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Autism in relationships and communication breakdowns
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Emotional labor and sensory overload in neurodiverse love
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ADHD and executive functioning challenges in partnerships
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Shutdowns, masking, meltdowns, and what’s underneath them
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Support for partners navigating Cassandra Syndrome
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Late-diagnosis grief, burnout, and identity exploration
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How to create love and connection that honors your brain and nervous system
Whether you’re neurodivergent, neurotypical, or somewhere in between, the Love on the Autism Spectrum blog was created to help you feel seen, understood, and empowered.
Why I Do This Work
I hold a Master’s in Clinical Psychology from Sofia University and advanced training in Autism, ADHD, and complex trauma. With over 22 years of clinical and coaching experience—and as someone who’s walked this path personally—I specialize in working with couples who’ve seen too many traditional therapists and still feel stuck.
My work through Love on the Autism Spectrum includes therapy, coaching, adult autism and ADHD assessments, private couples retreats, support groups, and immersive programs designed to meet neurodivergent needs with clarity and compassion.
Everything I create—including the Love on the Autism Spectrum blog—is trauma-informed, neurodiversity-affirming, and grounded in nervous system safety and emotional honesty.
This Blog Is For You If…
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You’ve tried therapy that didn’t “get” neurodiverse dynamics
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You’re navigating a relationship with ADHD, Autism, or both
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You feel emotionally invisible and don’t want to keep overfunctioning
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You want grounded, relatable guidance from someone who truly understands
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You’re craving community, connection, and clarity without shame
Every blog post on Love on the Autism Spectrum is written to support your real, unfiltered experience—and to remind you that you’re not too much, not alone, and not broken.
Don’t Miss the Podcast
Many blog posts are inspired by my weekly episodes of the Love on the Autism Spectrum Podcast, which features:
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Therapy Tuesdays
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Waking Up Neurodivergent Wednesdays
Love on the Autism Spectrum Podcast is available here, and also on Apple, Spotify, YouTube, and Audible. It’s another way Love on the Autism Spectrum supports your healing journey—one honest conversation at a time.
Let’s Write a New Chapter Together
Love and Autism can coexist beautifully. So can ADHD, trauma, and the longing to feel deeply understood.
Here on the Love on the Autism Spectrum blog, I’ll meet you with honesty, empathy, and tools that work for your brain, your real life, and your relationship’s unique rhythm.
This is your space to explore, reflect, and find the support you’ve been missing.
“Take a breath. Settle in. I’m glad you’re here.”